Overcoming overwhelm

I’ve been wanting to write this post for a bit now and I finally found some time tonight. So welcome — here’s a little update of life in the Torres household.

Both Eric and I are trying to find a “new normal.” Figuring out schedules and how to best support each other in this season. We don’t get to see each other as much as we used to, but I can tell we’re in such better places now even though at this moment the places are farther apart. Goals are being realized and it’s incredible to live them.

Eric’s still enjoying working full time at the restaurant and although I haven’t been able to see him in action, I know he’s doing an awesome job. He’s the most hardworking person I know and if he’s committed to something, he’s going to give it his all.

My sleep schedule has gotten funky {mostly} because of his restaurant hours — even though I’m tired I love hearing the stories about his day. The funny things that happened, the kind words a customer said, how he made a difference in someone’s experience. He’s proud and excited for the new opportunities ahead. I’m proud and excited with him!

Last summer was happily consumed with wedding activities. Preparations, celebrations, and of course, the special day. I thought this summer would be so much calmer. Silly me.

The last 2 weeks have been a bit of a whirlwind.

I’m halfway through my real estate class with just 3 weekends left (including this one!) Plus I started my new job on June 12th. Bring on all the new info! My days lately have been spent in class, at work, or learning (for both class and work).

Each day has been getting a little easier. More information is sticking. I’m becoming more comfortable and confident. I’m answering more questions correctly on exam preps.

Despite the craziness, I still feel like I’m where I’m supposed to be. As I look back over what got me to this point, there’s no doubt it was God’s doing. His perfect plan. He’s been weaving my story and aligning it all to get me here. So grateful!

You know when you’re starting something new and you all of a sudden have that overwhelming doubt? It’s too hard. I’m not ready for this. I can’t do it. Those thoughts have flashed through my mind on multiple occasions over the last few weeks.

What have I gotten myself into!? 

But I’m confident. I can do this. I was brought to this point for a reason. It’s going to be uncomfortable for a bit — that’s normal. Understandable. But if I can just push past it, it’ll be worth it.

So lately as I’ve been feeling this overwhelm, I’ve decided I’m going to overcome. I am an overcomer. I will not let doubt hold me and I won’t get in my way.

How have I been working on that?

Prayer

I’ve accepted that I’m overwhelmed and anxious at times. That’s okay. But I don’t have to face it all in my own strength. I pray for His wisdom, His peace, His comfort. I pray that I’ll be an example of His light and love to those I interact with. I pray that a little bit more will stick and I’ll feel more comfortable and confident than the day before. I pray that I’ll do my best and allow Him the space to fill in the gaps.

They’re simple prayers, but they do so much good. I talk to Him when I can — in the car, in a quiet moment, and anytime my heart needs a boost. It makes a difference.

Let go

I have a page full of goals for the month of June: good habits I want to develop and things I want to accomplish. I started off the month strong and even tried to keep it all up once classes started. But I quickly realized I can’t keep up with everything.

That bothered me. I wanted to continue to do it all. But I also knew that wasn’t reasonable. By continuing to push through, I was spreading myself way too thin. So I’m having to find the balance. Not everything will get checked off each day and I’m okay with that. I’m letting that guilt go. I’m making progress on the few most important things. Yes, that means many empty boxes, but that’s good enough.

Guilty pleasures

Episodes of Friends and Blue Bell Cookies ‘n Creme. That’s been the jam. That is my mini escape. “Free time” isn’t exactly a thing lately, but I try to find some time to unwind #nodaysoff. Admittedly I’ve probably had ice cream more nights this week than not. Whoops. I suppose that’s a part of the letting go.

This isn’t a season I’ll be in forever. If that means a few more ice cream nights, then fine. I’m not holding myself to a level of perfection. I’m extending myself more grace because I need it. It’s more about getting through in one piece. And my philosophy is that it’s better to have a treat here and there than to just crazy splurge later. Craving the ice cream?? Eat the ice cream. Give yourself what you need right now. Ice cream isn’t always the answer, but sometimes it may be. 


Friend, can you relate?

You may be reading this in the midst of your crazy. Or maybe you just got through that season. Or maybe you’re getting ready to enter it. No matter where you are, I’m cheering you on. You are doing amazing things and your best days are ahead. Lets encourage one another and lift each other up ❤

You’re doing great!

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Life’s changes lately

3 weeks ago I gave my two week’s notice.
1 week ago I worked my last day at CS.
Last weekend I started Real Estate school.

It’s been a time of transition. Eric and I made the decision a few months ago that I’d leave my current job and completely change paths. My current job that provided security, insurance, benefits… To go into something that I was completely unsure about.

When we made the decision we had no idea how things would go. We just knew that a change was needed and it was time to make it!

I spent over 2 years at my job. The company was great. My pay had increased over the years. I liked the people I worked with and I felt supported by management. On paper someone might wonder why I would leave that??

It wasn’t a fit for me. I had learned a lot and gained valuable knowledge and skills, but I wasn’t in my best fit. I found myself drained and frustrated. I know that’ll happen from time to time with a job (it is work anyway!) but that’s not a good daily place to be.

So the decision. The unknown. The worries.

But we trusted and went for it.

I’ve never really done anything like that before. Made such a jump without knowing the next move. It was scary, but it felt good to trust. It’s amazing how God works and how He moves things to work for our good.

The day I nervously gave my two week’s notice, I wasn’t sure if I’d actually gotten the new job yet. I gave my notice and my heart leapt — with excitement and fear in the same beat. But later that night I got the phone call I had been waiting for. I laughed and cried once the call ended because that’s such a God thing. He just wants me to trust His plans and He takes care of the rest. That trusting may look like stepping out in faith and allowing Him the space to catch you.

A lot of people have been asking what brought me to real estate.

It’s mostly due to the encouragement of my husband. For some time I knew I wanted to venture down a different career path, but I had no idea what. I didn’t have any set job in mind, but I’d look through the jobs posted on LinkedIn and other sites. I came across one for a real estate agent that sounded ahhhmazing! Only problem, I didn’t have my license. I sent the posting to Eric anyway and dreamt about being a real estate agent in the meantime.

I didn’t expect his response, but he immediately told me to go for it! And that set the wheels in motion. I used to work as a leasing agent in college and enjoyed working with people and helping them find a place to call home. I didn’t love the college apartment leasing, but homes?? That’s something I could definitely see myself doing.

Use my psychology degree, interact with people, show beautiful homes. That’s my style.

But one big career change isn’t enough, right??

A few weeks before I was planning on giving my notice, Eric told me he was seriously considering leaving his job. He had mentioned it out of frustration before, but this time was different. Without hesitating (too much), I assured him he should do it if he was sure… he’s not really the impulsive type (that’s me) so I was pretty confident he was already sure.

He’s had big dreams for a while and I knew leaving his job would happen eventually, just wasn’t planning on it being in the same timeframe. Talk about trust!

Team Torres was potentially unemployed. But we were also creating the space to move into something much bigger and better! And that’s exactly what’s been happening.

I am beyond grateful for the decisions that we made and the opportunities that have come our way because of them. We are a happier, stronger couple for it and we’re working together to make things happen.

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More to come soon about our new adventures and how they’re panning out, but for now I just wanted to fill you in and encourage you. You have the power to change whatever you need to in your life. Is it a job? A relationship? A habit? A choice?

Whatever it may be, it’s worth the jump! If there’s something you’re complaining / stressing / worrying about day after day, maybe it’s time. You’re not a tree… you don’t have to stay stuck. Move! I know it’s scary, but if you’re making the leap with good intentions and a pure heart the world has your back.

So do that thing! Stop wishing and start making it happen.

We are so appreciative of all the love and well wishes we’ve received and any that are to come! Change isn’t easy, but it’s a lot easier with your support. Thank you

Can’t wait to fill you in on what’s ahead! The best is yet to come!

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May Progress & June Goals

June 1st so you know what time it is! It’s time to look back at my progress over the last month while also looking forward to what’s to come! Before starting this process of intentional goal setting I didn’t care either way much about a new month. Now a fresh month excites me because it’s like a mini reset!

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Note to self…

May brought lots of changes and with that some pivoting was needed. Progress was still made though! Instead of steady forward progress the changes turned our steps into a bit of a cha-cha, but that’s okay with me.

May Progress

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Monthly Goals

  • Love Eric well — This will be a constant work in progress as love is a verb. You’re never really “done” (and if you think you are, check yourself and your relationship). Craziness of life can make this challenging at times, but it helps to have as a goal so I can remain focused and intentional. I’m not always great at this, but I do check in with Eric weekly to see how I did. I’m open to his feedback and want to allow space if he does have a suggestion on how I can be a better wife.
  • Budget – communicate/reduce debt — Another work in progress! We are still openly communicating about our budget and where we stand financially. We don’t have a structured communication plan, but really just touch base as needed. That seems to be working well so far, so we’ll keep at that! Time to update the budget for June!
  • Serena’s bachelorette weekend — Check! What a fun and special weekend! You can read more about it here
  • Bridesmaid dress alteration — This one goes unchecked, but I’m actually about to do it after I finish this post. Time snuck away from me, whoops!
  • Margin – space & days — I’m doing better at allowing open space in my schedule. I can breathe and that makes a huge difference!
  • Anniversary gift complete — Check! Huge thank you to my talented friend, Catryn. I can’t wait to share the finished product with you! In the meantime, if you want to check out her work (which I highly suggest!) you can visit her here
  • Biz growth – samples out — Getting into a new business has been an interesting journey so far to start, but it’s going well!! Thank you to those that have supported me ❤
  • Procedure — So nothing serious, but earlier this month I did get a “skin tag” removed. I say that with quotations because it was much larger than your average tag. Regardless, it’s removed and the report from pathology came back as just a fatty tissue, so no worries there! And it’s healed nicely, so I’m happy!

Weekly Goals

  • Unplug — This will continue to be a goal until it becomes a true habit. Unplugging has been so good for me! While I understand the positive effects, I’m worried I’ll let it slide if I’m not focused.
  • Self care – meditate — I’m finally getting into a meditation habit! Quiet the mind and breathe. Definitely needed.
  • Cultivate relationships — We aren’t meant to do this life alone, so I’m definitely focused on growing my important relationships. As adults with busy lives and hectic schedules it’s crucial to be intentional and be the one to reach out.
  • Be my own health success story — I wasn’t exactly sure what I meant when I wrote this down, but I felt led to include it. Week to week it looked a bit different, but I’m taking complete responsibility for my body and health. If it’s not where I want it to be, it’s up to me. I’m writing my own success story!

Daily Goals

  • Pray/journal
  • Sleep 7+ hours
  • NO SNOOZE
  • Exercise
  • Espanol
  • Be creative

Lots of repeats, but that’s okay. These daily goals are positive habits I’m working on cultivating in my life and habits take time to really stick. I’m proud of the progress that was made in these areas and I’m getting closer to creating those lasting habits.

June, I’m so excited for you!!!

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Monthly Goals

  • Pour into marriage
  • Budget – pay off Chase
  • Biz growth
  • Matt & Serena’s wedding (yay!)
  • Graceful job transition
  • Real estate school

Weekly Goals

  • Unplug
  • Prayer & mediation
  • Make plans with friend
  • Meal plan & prep

Daily Goals

  • Sleep 7+ hours
  • NO SNOOZE
  • Exercise
  • Journal
  • Handletter
  • Spanish practice

I’m ready to dig in and cultivate beautiful things in June! Since there have been so many changes in our world, be on the lookout for a life update coming your way soon! I promise ya, it’s good and I’m so grateful! ❤

What’s a goal you have for June? I’d love to know and encourage you along the way!

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Charlottesville — Fine as Wine

While so many are away on vacation for Memorial Day Weekend, I’m soaking up some relaxing time at home and looking back on last weekend’s adventure in beautiful Virginia. I love traveling and it’s so fun to be able to share my trips with you!

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2017 has been the year of travels and I was able to check another new place off the list: Charlottesville, VA. Not your usual Bachelorette weekend destination, but the gorgeous wineries were calling our names.

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7 ladies. 
4 wineries.
1 day.
Mission accepted and accomplished. 

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If you ever find yourself in Charlottesville, definitely be sure to check out the wineries! We chose 4 that were relatively close to one another so it was possible to visit all in one day {a pretty big accomplishment!} Our vino adventure began around 10am leaving the hotel.

King Family Vineyards: This was a great first stop! They opened at 10am, so it wasn’t too busy by the time they arrived, ideal since they don’t make reservations. The tasting was wonderful and they have a lovely seating area out back to enjoy a glass of your favorite. Polo matches are held every Sunday beginning Memorial Day weekend.

10 min to Pollak 

Pollak Vineyards: We were able to make reservations here. The tasting was actually in a side room that overlooked the side of the property with some water, trees, and benches. We chose 2 of our favorite bottles to enjoy out at the picnic tables and took advantage of some more photo ops, of course! 

9 min to Veritas

Veritas Vineyards & Winery: Again, no reservations, but no worries! I actually booked/prepaid for a tasting and tour prior to our trip and gave an estimated time. It was interesting to see and learn more about the wine making process. 

25 min to Pippin Hill 

Pippin Hill Farm & Vineyards: We had the least amount of time here due to an event, but wish we were able to be there longer. The vineyard sits on top of a hill, so the views were stunning! Next time this is probably where I’ll like to pick back up. 

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It was an honor to be able to be a part of this weekend. The blushing bride, Serena, was a bridesmaid in my wedding and a year ago we were doing all these activities for my big day. It’s so fun to return the favor and get to experience the joy, excitement, and love again as her and her future hubby’s day is approaching!

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Don’t you just need a girl’s weekend from time to time!? This was the perfect excuse! We had a blast getting to know each other and I can’t wait for the group to reunite on June 17th! Until next time… ❤

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Easy Egg Muffins

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This has quickly become one of my favorite go-tos! Mostly because it’s so simple to make, but also because of how easy it is to mix it up. I don’t mind eating the same thing over and over if it’s good, but I love being able to substitute different “add ins” depending on what I’m craving or what I’m trying to use up.

I will apologize in advance since I don’t exactly use a recipe for this, but what I’m going to share with you is a really good outline that you can tweak as needed depending your preferences.

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What do you need? 

  • Muffin pan
  • Cooking spray
  • 6-12 eggs (depending on how thick you want your “muffins” to be — I’ve learned 7 is a good amount for me)
  • Desired “add ins” (this may be greens, meats, cheeses, etc)
  • Milk (I used almond milk, but regular milk works just fine)
  • Salt & pepper to taste

Preheat your oven to 350. Spray the muffin slots with cooking spray so your muffins easily come out once cooled. Crack the eggs into a bowl and whisk together. Add a splash of milk and salt and pepper to taste. Set aside.

Prepare your “add ins.” Most commonly I’ll use spinach (chopped small) and either bacon or deli meat in small pieces, but this is totally up to you! Place your yummy extras at the bottom of all 12 muffin slots. Pour your egg mixture over each one. Sprinkle cheese on top if that’s your thing (it’s definitely mine) 😉

Bake for about 12-15 minutes, or until the tops are firm to the touch or if an inserted toothpick comes out clean.

Let cool in the pan a few minutes before removing. You can enjoy immediately or store in an air tight container in the fridge for up to 4 days! These can also be stored in the freezer — just move to the fridge the night before to thaw.

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I usually make a batch at the beginning of the week to have for breakfasts. Pair a few with some fruit and BOOM — filling and delicious meal. I’m all about simple and nutritious, so this wins for both! What’s your favorite on the go breakfast? I’d love to add a few other recipes to my rotation 🙂

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Punta Cana — Honeymoon Part 2

Punta Cana holds a special place in our hearts. It was the location Eric chose to pop the big question 2 years ago — all the feels ❤️ At the end of April we headed back to the beautiful blue waters and fantastic all inclusiveness for another vacation. Much needed!!

Our first Global Entry/TSA Precheck experience went flawlessly and we found ourselves on our honeymoon… part 2. We were treated like royalty and enjoyed the luxury from the moment we got there.

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This “welcome drink” became our daily go to — The Majestic

The timing of our trip was a bit funky, a few months early for our anniversary. We were supposed to be on an earned trip with a company I used to work with — long story short the week of the trip we parted ways with that company and the original trip was canceled. Nothing like a scramble to make new plans the week of your international trip!

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Eric found a reasonably priced all inclusive resort (definitely the way to go!) that had good reviews, so we went for it! I always get a bit nervous for things like this. Will the place actually look like the pics? Are the reviews legit? Our “backup” plan did not disappoint: Majestic Elegance was our new home for 4 days!

Everything was incredible. Our butler, Victor, was the absolute best. He made sure we were always taken care of — well really we were more than taken care of. All the time in the world to do whatever we wanted… what do we even do with ourselves!?

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Watermelon mimosa + nutella crepe with plantains on top. Heaven!

It was overcast most of the trip, but the first full day we woke up to rain. That may have been frustrating to some (and don’t get me wrong, I didn’t want that the whole trip), but it was a welcome invitation to sleep in and take it slow. We definitely needed it!

Needless to say, the all inclusive resort meant lots of food and lots of drinks. My only stress that vacation was trying to figure out which drink to order next. Some worries, right!? Nothing like reality, so we soaked it up… every last drop! 😉

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Vacation is good for the soul and good for marriage. It’s not always possible or realistic to take a big trip like this, so we fully embraced it. At home there’s so many distractions: chores, bills, dog (kids maybe for you?), work, responsibilities, etc. How much can get in between you and your most important relationships!? But on vacation, all that is set aside and many many miles away.

We’re not a couple that’s full out on the romantic gestures, but can’t ever go wrong with room service breakfast, rose petals, champagne, and chocolate. We were so pampered and I felt like a princess. The big event I was excited about was the romantic dinner on the beach. Food + beach is a very good idea!

My happy place is the beach. My first beach love was Atlantic Beach where my family has a condo and I’ve spent countless moments, but this beach was pretty nice too. When we weren’t on the beach, somehow we were getting encouraged into games hosted by the resort staff. Eric even won a shirt (he was super proud). Not pictured (although there are videos) is me having to be a bartender and shake shake shake it! ¡Arriba, abajo, al centro, pa’ dentro!

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I couldn’t get over the gorgeous colors and scenery. Nature’s beauty will never stop impressing me. Thank you, God, for being such a beautiful artist and allowing us to enjoy sights like this!

Definitely a trip we will always remember! It didn’t happen as we had originally planned, but I believe it turned out so much better!

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Until our next adventure (which I’m eager to begin planning!)… Cheers to us! An amazing trip with my favorite travel partner.

I’d love to know what’s your favorite destination!? I’m always down for a tropical getaway, but I’m willing to consider other locations. Let me know in the comments below! Thanks so much in advance!

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Giving up the “one day” for today

One day when I’m in a new job… then I’ll be happy.

One day when my schedule settles down… then I’ll start working out. 

One day when I have more time… then I’ll start cooking.

One day when I lose the last 5 pounds… then I’ll love my body. 

One day when I’m not so busy… then I’ll catch up with my friend.

One day when I get that raise… then I’ll take the trip I’ve always wanted.

One day… then…

Fill in the blank with whatever sounds “right” for you. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve uttered these or similar phrases. Even more often have I thought them. It’s a common problem — we always think things will be better once we get acquire that next right thing. We’ll finally be happy once we do the thing.

Has that ever been true? I’ve convinced myself of this so many times and each time it’s not as fabulous as I had imagined. The joy, excitement, happiness are fleeting and then I’m right back out searching for the next fix of goodness. When I’m placing my ultimate happiness and fulfillment of my life on external circumstances I will always come up short.

I’ve felt especially convicted of that this week.

I’ve been wanting to get fully back on track with my health and fitness lately, but something in me keeps holding me back from really going for it. The best time to start is today. I shouldn’t let past slip ups (like weekend splurges) completely derail my efforts. I know these to be true, but I’m hanging on to one day.

“Well I’m going away this weekend, so I’ll really get started next Monday.”

I’ve actually been taking a lot of trips lately, so this has been a common thought. At first, it seemed okay. “Yeah, you’re right. You’ll do much better if you start on a Monday. If you start now you’ll just have to take a break in the middle of the program, so just wait.”

Yall, I am way too good at justifying things that I maybeeee don’t really want to do.

Deep down in my heart I know it’ll be best for me if I put in 100% effort. Yes, summer is coming up so I want to feel most confident in my bikini, but bigger than that is my long term health. I guess I’ve been having a hard time because what’s pushing things back one week when I have my whole life to get healthy and fit??

I don’t know about you, but the way things are going in my fitness life is a direct reflection of the other areas. If I’m focused, giving my all, and really committed, that positive energy and determination shows up in other areas. I’m a better wife, dog momma, friend, coworker, etc.

It’s definitely been that reflection. I’ve been letting myself slack and so I’ve been pushing off things in other areas too. That “one day” mentality is creeping into other areas and I’m not a fan.

Enough is enough.

I’m claiming back control of my own happiness and fulfillment.

I’m letting go of the power “one day” has on me.

download.pngYou know the saying, we always think the grass is greener on the other side. But truth, it’s greener where you water it.

Stop giving the destination the power! The destination can be amazing, wonderful, exciting, but really it’s just the next step. Once you’re there, you’ll be looking for the next one, so don’t get caught there.

Keep your head up, eyes open, and priorities straight.

So here I am making a commitment to you. I am not going to continue to put things off for that magical day when everything comes together. I’m going to make it happen now. My happiness, my joy, my health, my relationships. They deserve my attention now with whatever I’ve got.

What you’ve been waiting for is sitting next to you — will you stop and notice it?

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